Uncategorized

Profile of an Abuser

People find abusers to be charismatic, assertive and self-reliant. The predator can be impulsive, and has a quick temper. They’ll restrain themselves if necessary. These two roles keep others from seeing the violent side and it hides the insecurities, self-esteem issues. These problems and the inability to express hurt, fear, sadness, that’ll cause the predator to resort to violent methods, the way they’re taught as children. The assailant continues to keep the emotions bottled up until they explode and takes their anger out on the mate.

If you look at the childhood you’ll find an abnormal attachment to the mother, and they’ve been rejected, beaten emotional, mentally and physically and possibly humiliated by the father. The mom’s loving one day and distant the next day. This gives the child mixed feelings, which causes insecurities.

Usually, the antagonist brings in income and makes final decisions. They’ll need to feel successful both at home and work, wants constant praise, but never asks for it because that’ll show weakness. The perpetrator has complete control over the lover’s lives and be very possessive and believes they own them.

Many try to isolate the target and seldom has close friends. If authority’s question the attacker become abusive, blaming the partner or others for the actions. The destruction can be emotional, physical, or mental. The attacker rationalizes the actions by saying things like, if you’d just do what I asked I won’t hit you, or deny the incident occurred. Drugs and alcohol’s shown to play a part in the violence while only a small percent has a mental illness.

Types of Abuse

Physical
This includes, but isn’t limited to hitting, punching, slapping, shoving, kicking, throwing, choking, pinched, burning, hair pulling, being force fed, use of a weapon, tie, or pinning the target.

Sexual
Unnecessary, unwelcome touch, forcing intercourse. Causing pain during sex. Withholding, or using sex to punish. Showing someone pornography, or telling dirty jokes against their will, giving explicit details about sexual affairs, treating someone like a sex object, sexual accusations.

Intimidation
Yelling, screaming, breaking objects, throwing items around the room hitting something. Beating a pet, creating fear through looks, actions, or showing a weapon,

Verbal
Fits of anger, or ignoring the spouse. Belittlin’, name calling, brainwashing, blaming, denying the incident happened. Attacking the targets beliefs.

Emotional
Put down, playing mind games, blaming the victim for everything, causing the person to feel guilty, useless and helpless. Lack of privacy, making the target believe they’re losing their mind. Humiliating, scolding, yelling at the sufferer in public, treating the prey like a child, having the suffer check in often, denying basic rights, including decisions. Forcing the victim to degrade themselves, show no interest in the mates work, hobbies.

Isolation
Setting limits on when and how long the target can be out, forcing the victim to disclose every movement as the abuser monitors the activities. The perpetrator could show a lack of affection to punish. The attacker might turn people against them, or make it difficult for the person to visit friends without being criticized, or humiliated. The batterer could listen in on phone calls, reading mail, emails and prevent medical treatment,

Economics
The antagonist doesn’t allow their prey any money, making the sufferer ask for basic necessities. If the lover obtains money the perpetrator could steal it, or force the person account for every penny. The victim’s unemployed, or finds it difficult to keep a job.

Coercing
Making and possible following through with the threats. Coercion also includes using threats to force them into doing things; dropping criminal charges, illegal activities, having sex

Terrorizing
Threaten to harm, or kill the prey. Showing the victim weapons, or playing with a weapon in front of the sufferer. Tieing something around the neck as they threaten to choke their prey.

Neglect
Withholding the basic necessities, food, water, housing, clothes, medical, personal hygiene. Lack of safety concerns.

Signs of a Batterer

Wants complete control over everything.
The predator has abandonment issues.
Extremely jealous, says the mate’s flirting when she’s not
Believes people’s cheating.
Wants to spend every minute with his partner.
Had some type of childhood shame which resurfaces if rejected.
gets mad or becomes verbally abusive if she tries to help.
Very suspicious and often overreacts to the slightest thing.
They’ll find fault in everything she does, says. A defense mechanism learned and used from early childhood. It gives the assailant a reason to push her away, not let her get too close. So they won’t have to risk being rejected, abandoned.
As time progresses the abuser believes all women are disloyal and be skeptical of everyone.

Stages of Abuse

In the beginning, he’s madly in love, feels adequate complete. Then suspicion starts creeping in and his emotions start building. Eventually, he becomes angry. At first it’s just yelling, throwing things, slamming doors, punching walls, threatening her. Over time, it increases to physical violence and possible use of weapons.

Once he calms down, he’ll apologize, promising not to do it again. The batterer might shower her with love, gifts, treats her like a queen. She forgives the lover.

Everything’s going great. She makes excuses, covers up bruises, or explain it away. The sufferer refuses outside help. She’ll drop charges because in her mind it won’t happen again. For a while, it doesn’t then one day the violence starts. The beating’s worse than the last. It’ll continue to intensify until the partner either gets years of therapy, she leaves or she dies.

My book Town Slayer is about a battered wife, who after she’s released comes back and kills the batterers. Of course, you know murder’s illegal and immoral.

In reality a women’s beaten by her partner every second and a half, out of these women at least four dies.

I know your significant other says they’re sorry, it’ll never happen again, but please don’t believe it. The beatings become worse and then one day one of these dead women will be you.

If you don’t have anywhere to go, or they threatening to kill you if you leave. The police can and will protect you.

Please, call 911 or the number below, before it’s too late.
1800 799 SAFE that’s 1-800 799-7233.

No matter what your mate says you don’t deserve this, you’re on earth for a reason and you do matter! So please get help before it’s too late.

Advertisements
Standard
Crime scene analysis

Profile of a Serial Killer

Serial killers target 3 or more people within their criminal career. It can take day’s weeks, months, or years. There’s always a cooling off period in between each of the crimes. The amount of time depends on the individual and usually decreases as the perpetrator progresses. When captured, the predator won’t show remorse for his victims or the families.

The motive can be anger, momentary gain, self-gratification, attention seeking, revenge, power, and control.  Revenge and self-gratification seekers generally choose specific people. He’ll dissociate, get revenge on someone who resembles the person who did them wrong. Many dehumanize, take away human powers, placing it on other smaller objects.

The killer may or may not have psychotic episodes. Some hear voices saying certain people are bad, and will cause harm if they’re not destroyed. While others claim aliens, animals, or some other object told them to do it. Murderers who have mental illnesses are disorganized because they’re unable to plan ahead.

Most have below average to average intelligence come from a home where the parents are divorced, or there’s a breakdown in the family dynamics.  They’ve usually had an abusive childhood and often has attachment issues. They’ll probably wet the bed past the age of 12, harm small animals and is fascinated with fire. The child’s bullied in school, causing social isolation. The child may create a fantasy world, one he can control and feels successful. The two worlds collides making it difficult if not impossible for the child to distinguish between fantasy and reality. It’s in this world they’re able to kill without remorse, or guilt.

An organized serial killer carefully plans the killing. He’ll generally have a comfort zone where he chooses the target and the crime scene. They’ll move these victims to another area when the task is completed. Knowing basic forensics, the criminal will leave few clues. He’ll follow the media and frequently interjects themselves in the investigation. They’ll have friends, family, a steady job, making it hard to believe the perpetrator committed these crimes. Once caught police find they’re proud of their accomplishments.

Disorganize has an IQ below normal. They don’t plan ahead, making the prey and weapon choice random. The person’s unemployed stays to himself a lot and has few if any friends. Many are known to suffer from a mental illness. He can become extremely violent both physically and sexually and possibly has necrophiliac tendencies.

The next two types of serial killers are mercy and visionary. Mercy killers are often found in health care settings. They’ll target a sick patient because he doesn’t want to see the person suffer. Some want to save the victim from abomination. While others want to gain money, power, and control. Visionaries are the ones who have a psychotic break. They kill in order to get rid of a certain subset of people.  Jack the Ripper might be considered a visionary because he murdered prostitutes.

Lust killers can be organized or disorganized. The motive is sexual fantasies, fetishes, and symbolism. The amount of satisfaction received depends on how much the predator tortures, brutalizes and dismembers the victim. The target could be either alive or dead during the sexual acts. The murderer uses knives, strangulations, and physical abuse to kill.

An organized lust murderer has above average intelligence and no previous convictions. He’s in his thirty’s married. has children and lives in a low crime area. The perpetrator plans every detail in advance. He’s mobile, carries his tools with him and lures his victim. They use violence to degrade and kill his prey, which he’ll find sexually satisfying. The predator takes the victims to a secluded place, somewhere he can have complete control, without having to worry about the interruption, or being caught.  He’ll torture, beat and rape the victim, possibly for months. This type of criminal uses scares tactics to increase the person’s fears and his own sexual arousal. As the murder progresses the time between crimes decreases while the torture and mutilation increases.

Disorganized murder has below normal IQ and lacks social skills. He’s usually immobile so he targets victims close to where he lives, works. He chooses his prey randomly and his crime’s done on impulse.

Standard
Uncategorized

Profiling a Female Serial Kiiler

Criminal profiling helps the police narrow down a suspect list, get a better understanding of who they’re dealing with, and help them capture the criminal. When mystery writers utilize this tool, they’re able to build strong believable characters. One character that plays an extensive role in mysteries is female killers, and this is what we’ll discuss today.

To be classified as a serial killer, the predator has to kill at least 3 people at different points in time. They might murder a few at one time, but it’s never a large amount.

Looking into the killer’s background you’ll see the criminal came from either a broken home or dysfunctional family. There will some type of abuse involved, whether it’s mental, physical or sexual. You’ll usually find they first started by killing small creatures and committing petty crimes.

Former female serial killers use to stage the deaths to resemble an accident. While others made the death seem like it’s the result of an illness or natural causes. She’ll know the victims and the motive’s generally for monetary gain.

Law enforcement’s noticed a change in this trend in the late 70’s. Although poison remains top on the list. Statistics shows that 20% of the women shoot the victims, 16% suffocate them and 11% stab their prey.

The motives have changed as well. Now the objectives might include attention seeking or revenge. Some kill for power and control. Unlike the males, police find sexual and sadistic intentions are rare. The officers also noticed they’ll occasionally team up with a male murder.

Their career can last up to eight years. The crime’s generally organized, planned. They know who they’re going to target, how it’ll be done and what equipment’s needed. The murder often fantasizes about killing for a lengthy amount of time, before she acts on the compulsion.

Their illusion first begins with random people. The predator conjures up numerous ways to kill and hide the bodies. The perpetrator will research the subject and add the knowledge into the dreams. They’ll start imagining everything about the desired action, right down to the most gruesome details. Many soon find these fantasies reduces stress and makes them feel like they have the ability to regain power and control over her life.

Once she realizes how evil her dream is, she’ll try to stop it, but finds it an impossible task. This frustrates her which causes the dreams to increase, now targeting a specific person. She’ll obsess over every little detail about what’s going to happen before, during and after the murders. The performance will continually play in her mind sending her in a hysteria until she has no choice but, to act on it. When it happens, she’ll choose a victim that’s an easy target. It could be a small child, a family member, or a sick friend.

Committing the murder is easy, since she knows every detail by heart. Once the murder’s performed, regret soon follows. The disappointment isn’t caused by guilt or remorse, it stems from the real murders not living up to her expectations. The perpetrator often wants the person to suffer a long, agonizing death, or expected the scene to be more gruesome. With these desires in mind, they’ll study the methods and try to figure out ways to make the crimes to satisfy their needs. Like the male counterparts, as the criminal progress, gain confidence the killings become horrific.

I’ve written two books on female serial killers they are; Bittersweet Revenge and Town Slayer. Bittersweet Revenge is about an abused child who swore she’d get even with everyone who hurt her. Years later, she’s lurking in the cold, dark shadows, watching, and waiting. Soon she’ll get revenge.

Town Slayer is about a battered wife, who after years of her husband’s brutal torture, and abuse decided to rid the world of all the sadistic husbands.

You can find free a free preview of these on my website at http://www.mindbogglingmystery.com

Standard